Around 20 millions married Americans do not have an active sex life. Do not think you are alone if this is the situation you are in. However, you have to take control of the situation. You are not supposed to be living with your lover as your roommate. When your marriage is sexless it means there is more than meets the eye and you need to work on that.
Sex has its advantages and if your sex life is dormant you won’t get these perks. There are many things to use in rekindling the romance in your marriage. In going back to romance in the relationship you should start a sex diary. It calls for setting apart a specific time for you to have sex. With this in mind, you will prepare adequately. You are going to have great anticipation in this case and it will make it feel even more special.
Schedule sex because having more often will make you want it even more. Taking a trip across town or abroad is another way you can bring back the romance in the marriage. When the house has lost its magic you should try a new place. You need the two of you to have time to yourselves. Get an off-day or two from work and find a sitter if you have kids. There are a lot of pressures from daily activities and that is one of the things you want to avoid. When you only have to concentrate on your partner you will connect. It is also a peaceful environment. The importance of communication in a marriage cannot be emphasized. The relationship will be healthy when communication is not lacking. A sexless marriage is not the kind of a thing you would want to discuss but it is part of fixing it.
Have this talk with your lover when you are not in the bedroom and discuss all the ways you can find solutions. This discussion should not be confrontational and you have to listen to what your partner has to say. Most of the time there isn’t a clear cut issue which led the death of your sex life. Once those are fixed then comes intimacy. It is important for you to keep doing this regularly so that you do not let sex issues go on for so long to the point where you stop having sex once again. When you are having healthy sex discussions it will be easy for your relationship to grow strong. Another important factor for you to think about is therapy as a couple if need be.